Baraka Bob aside, there are few guys ready to appreciate black progressive musician/writer/imams, even if they do belly dance and even cook on occaision. With my last ex, however, I've learned to add one more item to the list of things my guy must have. It's something I took for granted while in my hometown, but now that I've lived outside of Philadelphia, I am realizing the importance of home training. For the uninitiated, I'll explain: home training encompasses all the practices and values that a well-brought up person should have. It starts with etiquette, but goes on to civic responsibilty, and generally being the best child, grandchild, parent, spouse, partner, neighbor, stranger, whatever you can be.